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After we agreed on dividing values into groups, and excluding some of them, I remind the reader that we agreed on the following groups:
First: Freedom, Justice and Responsibility
Second: honesty, integrity and honesty
Third: knowledge, accuracy and mastery.
Fourth: Courage, citizenship, tolerance, mercy, benevolence, forgiveness, compassion, gratitude, righteousness, solidarity and positive patience.
Fifth: Beauty, happiness and contentment
Sixth: friendship, love and giving
Seventh: cleanliness, environmental balance and self-esteem.
We agreed to leave the relative priorities among the values for further discussion. And one of the young people raised the point of view of adding the value of confidence in oneself and others, although it has been acquired over the years.
I told her: We can combine self-esteem with self-confidence, a value different from trusting others. Self-confidence comes from the accumulation of knowledge and human skill in dealing with situations, and his repeated achievements and excellence, which is also reflected in the confidence of others in him. Usually the trustee has a fixed position and point of view, and it makes no difference if that position is right or wrong, rather it is the extent to which the person is certain of its veracity.
A self-confident person has the ability to motivate himself automatically without the need for external stimulation, which is also important, and this confidence gives him the ability, strength and enthusiasm to work, give and achieve strongly to reach goals and achieve wishes and desires, and he is usually reconciled with himself and others.
The girl said: It is not a condition, Doctor, that the self-confident person be a distinguished and accomplished person. Most selfish people see themselves always right and have confidence in themselves based on their ignorance and their failure to see alternatives, they only see themselves.
I smiled admired Bmlha which may be absent from many. And her colleague added: Likewise, the fanatics of an idea, a religion or an ideology may be very self-confident, but that is because they cannot see any point of view other than what they see. They are absolutely wrong, and they are absolutely right.
Another young man said: So self-confidence here becomes a curse on society.
His colleague said: What about trusting others? Is it possible to live life without trusting parents, trusting friends, or family?
A third young woman said: What about trust in the system, or in your company or society?
I said: What you say is very important, because confidence has wings and entrances, but we have to know that self-confidence is an attribute that is not born with a person, but is acquired day after day. This is why some people have a lot of it, and some people don’t have enough self-confidence. And each of you knows who he is… and can you boost your self-confidence more? And how?.
People with low self-confidence are people who do not stop underestimating themselves, and they do not even think that others can see anything special in them. Their lack of self-confidence and low belief in their abilities always prevents them from taking the initiative and moving forward, they always exclude the possibility of success in what they do. Also, people who don’t have enough self-confidence make themselves feel uncomfortable and insecure. They often have trouble managing their daily lives. While self-confidence teaches the individual how to think and act independently and freely, and gives his relations with others a different and distinct character from others.
The young man said: What about trusting others?
I said: Trusting others is a different issue, and it is important as you mentioned, but it comes from the experience of each one of you and his experiences with the lover or friend, and perhaps it should not be absolute.. But the historical accumulation of human relations makes trust in parents, for example, almost absolute.
The young man said: What are the keys to self-confidence, Doctor?
I said: Psychologists have found that the causes of lack of self-confidence are often rooted in childhood or adolescence, and parents, teachers, siblings, and the environment in general have a great role in creating this, when they criticize the child, for example, in his appearance or his failure to study or anything negative that characterizes him. Instead of trying to correct it and encourage it to improve. This is increased by repeated negative blame instead of positive reformist admonition.
There are five keys that I can recommend to you to increase your self-confidence: First: to be distinguished, as every person has advantages, so let him work on them, highlight them, increase them, and express them. Second: to persevere and not try to change your personalities to please others – you cannot be a copy of others just to win their approval. Third: To be challenged and set for each day small goals, based on your knowledge of the reality of your capabilities, so that they are reasonable and achievable on the ground in a certain period of time. Do this gradually, and divide your work into stages, and each time raise the difficulty of the challenge. Fourth: Remember and do not stop saying positive sentences in your heart, or even out loud when you are alone: “I can do that” or “Yes, I have the ability.” necessary for this job,” or “I am the best.” This trick will help you become more positive in your way of thinking, overcome any sense of frustration or lack of self-confidence, and will make you expel negative thoughts from your head. But this method will not succeed or produce the desired results unless you believe in your abilities and work to develop them. And finally: To bravely face uncomfortable or embarrassing situations in which you feel uncomfortable. Do not cast your eyes to the ground and be broken as soon as someone criticizes you. Rather, you must persevere, face, respond and be positive in the discussion, and with repetition of the matter, you will gain experience that will make you able to avoid such situations, or at least confront them with confidence.
The quarrelsome young woman said: I mean, in the end, do we place trust as a human value or not?
Her colleague replied, “Let the value we place be specific to “self-confidence and self-respect.”
I said: On the occasion of self-respect, and since we are in the season of elections for both houses of Parliament, I would like to
To have a dialogue with you on the values of freedom, justice, integrity and responsibility.
I will ask you frankly: Who among you went and participated in the elections for the Senate? Do you intend to participate in expressing your opinion on the elections for the other chamber of Parliament?
They looked at each other, and I saw some signs of distress on their faces, and the quarrelsome young woman said: Doctor, you mean the referendum, not the elections, because there were no lists to choose between, and no parties competing with each other, the scene was one color and one shape..
I said: This is a topic that we must return to in more depth as we discuss the values of freedom, justice and integrity in our next meeting.
